Although having a weekly date may seem like a no-brainer, many couples’ good intentions quickly get put off to some future time, when life is not so busy or there’s more money.Pretty soon the kids are grown and couples find they’ve grown apart. It doesn’t have to always be on the same night, but it’s helpful to pencil in one night each week on your calendars; you can always change the night if a conflict comes up.Valentine’s Day, like the weather and cable companies, doesn’t care about the intricacies of your individual situation.Wouldn’t it be chill if Valentine’s were instead a sort of roving holiday that kicked in as your honeymoon stage was just beginning to wane, to jumpstart your conscientious devotion to romantic stuff again?Go to a public place (a train station, airport lobby, downtown gathering place) and people watch. If you like, discuss your deepest spiritual beliefs afterwards. Traditionally, parents fill their children’s shoes with treats on St. Try walking in your spouse’s shoes for an evening – perhaps more of a challenge for the husband.Make up stories about the people who pass you, as if you’re writing a novel. Try to understand life from your spouse’s perspective. Find a book you both enjoy and take turns reading to each other, or each of you can read your own book in each other’s company. Lay out a blanket and have an indoor picnic – or at least some popcorn.
Invented by the Monsanto of the affection industry, Hallmark, it's like all nefarious shadowy presences: its influence is traceless and ubiquitous.So while a relationship with somebody new often involves a lot of overanalyzing and sending nerve-racking texts, you won't have to play the guessing game this time around. I don’t like Valentine’s Day in general, but I haven’t been opposed to doing something romantic in the past. Because we just started dating, can we just pretend like Valentine’s doesn’t exist this year? “Why didn’t someone write the book on how to find the man of your dreams? We graduated from the same college, lived in the same dorm. “I didn’t see the red flags ‘cause I was too busy being in love with the idea of “Me too,” my other friend said.